Passionate about leadership development to help others realize their full potential and on a journey to learn and grow more every day
Happy New Year!
“The size of your dreams must always exceed your current capacity to achieve them. If your dreams do not scare you, they are not big enough.” — Ellen Johnson Sirleaf
I’m honored to continue this leadership journey with everyone in 2023! It’s up to us to make big things happen for our family, our work, and ourselves.
Hope you had a chance to recharge. This leadership stuff is not easy which is why we work at it.
Lead well!
Steve
Happy holidays!
This is our last article until the New Year, because we’re going to recharge through the end of December.
I say this with some trepidation. If you were to hang out with me, you’d know that I don’t do “recharge” very well.
I say this not to boast, but to identify a weakness. All of us, especially in leadership positions, need to make time to refresh, reflect, and give our bodies and brains a rest to prepare for whatever’s next.
Lead, and recharge, well!
Steve
A few years ago, my wife gave some half-joking advice to our teenage daughter. She said, “Don’t marry a jock. Marry a nerd.”
Now, the reasoning behind this comment none of us can remember. But it sparked a follow-up question that remains purposefully unanswered to this day: “Mom, did you marry a jock or a nerd?”
This week through the lens of marriage advice, jock and nerd stereotypes, and George Patton, we look at why leaders must be a little bit of a jock, a little bit of a nerd, and a whole lot of a leader.
Lead well!
Steve
I like to think I’m a good listener. But then I think about all the times someone else is talking, and my mind is wandering to what I’m going to say, not what they are saying.
We all don’t listen the same. This week we explore different styles of listening and how to use that to improve two-way communication.
I hope this makes you think differently in your next conversation.
Lead well!
Steve
Happy Thanksgiving!
This holiday always makes me reflect on if I’m doing enough to give thanks in my workplace and at home.
No matter the position we’re in, we owe a great deal of gratitude to those around us.
This week we explore thankfulness through the lens of one of my failures in recognizing others, and we seek to continue to grow on our leadership journey.
Lead well, and Happy Thanksgiving!
Steve
Leaders are not owed, they owe.
We can all think of a person who felt they were entitled to special privileges because of their position. The best leaders understand their role is not to be owed, but to owe.
This week, we talk about breaking entitlement culture and earning our leadership position.
Lead well!
Steve
Happy Veteran’s Day!
One of my favorite Federal holidays is this one – where we have the honor to thank those who have served for their incredible selflessness and sacrifice. Being a Veteran is being a leader!
I hope you’ll get this leadership message out to any Veteran you know. They are the reason our Nation remains strong and secure today.
Lead well and thank you Veterans!
Steve
Leaders,
Watching the World Series this week, there are some BIG swings. And some BIG misses.
As I reflect on my leadership journey, I can easily recall times I’ve swung for the fence and missed. These failures in life were very painful but at the same time taught me invaluable lessons I needed for the future.
We need leaders who aren’t afraid to prepare well, swing big, miss, and try again. Those leaders allow others to do the same.
This week we walk through a number of swings resulting in both passed balls and home runs.
Keep swinging and lead well!
Steve
This week, guest author, Tom Console, defensive football coach at University of Pennsylvania, leads us into “The Great Leadership Academy” on the field.
His five lessons of leadership provide a way to continuously improve as a leader and an athlete. Tom has a great theory on how to increase confidence on and off the field through his acronym KCAC. Great article from a great leader!
If you want to guest author, drop us an email and we’ll help you publish.
Thanks, Tom, for helping us all lead well.
Steve
Good morning, Leaders!
This week I visited the Wisconsin National Guard Challenge Academy, an alternate high school program for 16- to 18-year-old students who have dropped out or are not progressing in a traditional setting.
I found that in this environment, they exemplify the Easy-Hard Principle: doing hard things today leads to an easier future.
It was inspiring watching them build a better life, and this week we look at how to apply those principles in our own leadership.
Lead well!
Steve
October 11, 2022 by Stephen T. Messenger I’m the assistant coach of a 13 year-old soccer team, and the first things we do every practice are stretch and run a lap around the field. I noticed an interesting phenomenon on day one. The players didn’t run the full field and cut the corners by aContinue reading “Don’t Cut Corners: In Soccer… Or in Life”
Good morning, Leaders!
As I look across my—or any—organization, there are so many talented, hard-working individuals. One of our jobs is to understand what talents each person brings to the team, and how to engage and interact with them appropriately.
This week we explore the Nine-Box Matrix. This tool allows leaders to assess talent based on current performance and future potential and engage employees appropriately.
I hope this helps you think deeply about workforce development and how to develop and retain our talented workforces.
Lead well!
Steve
I recently rode in the car with a really bad driver. He took the corners too fast, stopped abruptly, and generally made me fear for my life. Yet, when I subtly brought up his lack of driving skills, he brushed it off as if he could be a driving instructor in his spare time.
What would cause such a bad driver to think they’re good?
This week we explore the intersection of confidence and competence, graphed through the Dunning-Kruger Effect. An interesting concept to observe in both others and our own lives.
Lead well!
Steve
I recently sat in a on a portion of a servant leadership class, which is one of my favorite subjects. I like to say that this type of leadership is “talked about by many but understood by few.”
Servant leadership often gets a bad rap. Many see it as a wishy-washy way of leading—a style that only focuses on the well-being of people and ignores the success of the organization. But done correctly, servant leaders both value people and accomplish the mission.
This week we look at servant leadership and how to leverage it more effectively.
Lead well this week!
Steve
I took command of Army Garrison Fort McCoy 62 days ago and quickly noticed an interesting thing. Many times, members of the team speak to me about the command and preface it with the word “your”—as in, “your garrison” or “your installation.”
I quickly correct them. It’s “our” installation. While this language may seem like semantics, this week we explore how one word makes a huge difference.
Lead well!
Steve
Good Morning, Leaders!
I often see the efforts of one person multiplied by thousands and wonder how they do it. This week we explore how one girl and her 57 cents turned into the founding of a major college in Philadelphia.
In this, we discuss how leaders are designed to take great ideas and bring them to the next level. I hear often, “Military commanders should do only what commanders can do.”
Yet many find themselves in the tactical fight and micromanaging, stifling their greatest asset–talented people.
Are you multiplying your team’s efforts or micromanaging how they work? We hope you think about how you direct activity this week.
Lead well!
Steve
“The British are coming!” shouted Paul Revere as he traversed the countryside surrounding Boston. Meanwhile, William Dawes carried the same message shouting the same thing.
Yet only one of these men became famous. Only one of these men was successful in their mission to warn Boston that night.
This week we look into what makes a successful communicator. Why some people thrive like Revere while some people disappear in history like Dawes.
Lead well!
Steve
I was walking into my office building last week with a few colleagues when I clearly saw a piece of trash laying on the ground. I instinctively tried to ignore it when once again the all-too-familiar voice of a man I’ve never personally met, but once heard speak, echoed in my head.
“Never pass a piece of trash without picking it up.”
General Michael Garrett’s leadership advice is both literal and metaphorical. This week we explore how to ensure we’re not walking by trash and instead improving the organization through personal example.
Lead well!
Steve
We have a tradition in our house where on your birthday and before we light the candles, everyone takes a turn to say something they appreciated about you that year.
This year all my kids are now teenagers, and the quality of gratitude has gone through the roof. It made me question why our family waits a year to give great compliments.
Or why leaders at work rarely give them at all. And when they do, it’s done passively. This week we explore how to overcome this barrier, give great compliments, and recognize your team.
Lead well!
It’s so easy to see life as a pendulum. When we go too far one way, we overcorrect and swing back the other way.
The key is to strike a balance between extremes. This week we look at two sides of leadership styles: the interpersonal leader and the results-driven leader.
We don’t have to choose to be one or the other. In fact, we should try to be both.
Lead well!
Steve
This week we explore the concept of valuing others. It’s so easy to walk by people because of our busy schedules.
Yet every person and engagement has the opportunity for a positive interaction. Each one also has the opportunity for a negative result.
In this article, we talk about how a little deliberate planning increases our chances of a positive outcome. More importantly, we connect with our most valuable asset: people.
Lead well!
Steve
Last week, I tried a new introduction technique to a team called a Leadership Constitution. This document is a leader’s promise on how they plan to lead and what values they live by.
This article explores the concept of a Leadership Constitution and my swing at creating one and sharing with a team. It also includes my personal Leadership Constitution.
If you’ve never heard of this concept, it’s worth trying. We all want to follow credible leaders. This exercise will increase that quality in you.
Be great today!
Steve
July 19, 2022 by Stephen T. Messenger Last week, I took command of United States Army Garrison Fort McCoy, Wisconsin. My family and I are humbled and blessed to be placed in this position of responsibility that influences hundreds of wonderful people who work for the garrison, tens of tenant organizations, and thousands of peopleContinue reading “Be Great Today!”
Good morning, Leaders!
So often, we leave a leadership position or event with success but seldom know why. We move onto the next assignment without much thought as to what we personally did right or wrong. We fail to reflect on our own actions.
In preparing to take an Army command position this summer, I deliberately carved out time over 30 days to reflect on my individual leadership.
This week we talk about the importance of reflecting, and my hope is that you’ll give it a try. This journey has certainly helped prepare me for the next adventure.
Lead well!
Steve
Good morning!
The early hours are the best time to gain a competitive advantage in work and life. Finding one extra hour every workday generates 32 more days of productivity each year!
This week we explore how to win the morning, and hence, win the day!
Lead well!
Steve
This morning, guest author Samuel Messenger shares his recent graduation speech which he gave last week to hundreds of newly graduated high school leaders!
His insight and wisdom on decision making techniques is something we can all use while considering our own choices.
Thank you, Sam for sharing this great lesson! We’re always looking for new authors, and you are leading the way!
Lead well!
Steve
Happy Flay Day leaders!
How well do we integrate work and life? There are so many lessons from home that can easily integrate into work and the other way around, but if you’re like me, I tend to compartmentalize.
Today we dive into the world of magic, drug-dealers, and the U.S. 1936 Olympic crew team to understand how to integrate lessons into other facets of our daily lives.
The best leaders see a holistic worldview of family, leisure, career, and hobbies and share lessons from each into the other.
I hope you’ll find time to blend these lessons together to be a better leader for your family and organization.
Lead well!
Steve
This week guest author Jack Mateer, with over 32 years of Air Force leadership experience, shares one of his many takeaways from service.
This proven leader cuts through the problem of only seeing one side of the story and encourages us all to understand different points of view.
Great article from a great leader!
This week I leave my current job and transition to another. It makes me reflect on what leadership legacy I will leave behind.
This week, we look at leaders spanning the Nobel Prize, adventure racing community, and Chinese philosophy to learn how to leave a legacy that your team deserves.
The key is thinking about what that legacy will be and taking tangible steps to turn it into reality.
Lead well!
Steve
Leaders,
Thank you for taking time today to remember those that gave their lives so that we may live in freedom.
Never forget our fallen service members on this Memorial Day.
The best leaders have the ability to enter the other person’s world. They see what inspires, encourages, and motivates them.
This week using a raised crosswalk initiative by the New York City Mayor, we look to see how we can move from our world to our team’s world to better lead.
Never stop learning!
Steve
Recognizing others is not hard, but there’s an art to it. Do it right, and you have valued employees who want to work harder.
Do it wrong, and you have employees who walk away wondering if the boss has their finger on the pulse.
This week we explore ways to recognize your team early and often.
Lead well!
Steve
This week we explore what Blaise Pascal called the three orders of greatness. These three orders of the body, mind, and heart are all needed reach your full leadership potential, but followers gravitate most towards the third order.
I hope this makes you think today about what our followers truly need from us day in and day out.
Lead well!
Steve
It’s easy for all of us to run into mental barriers. This week, I hit one head on and needed some outside help to get moving. It can happen to any of us.
How many people in your organization need help overcoming a mental barrier? This week we explore ways to encourage your employees to breakthrough mental barriers.
Lead well!
Steve
A few years ago, I gave a presentation to a senior military leader. It was a brief I’d given several times before in different variations. I was well prepared, well-rehearsed, and felt both confident and nervous right before going on stage. It was GO time!
Four minutes in, this senior leader literally dismissed me. He said something to the effect of, “Yeah, thanks Steve. We have other things to talk about.” I slunk over to my seat in shame, and the meeting could not end fast enough for me.
He chewed me up like a crocodile.
While professionally embarrassing, this experience encouraged me to work on being a better presenter. I wanted to know the secrets…
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“Never tell people how to do things. Tell them what to do and they will surprise you with their ingenuity.”
– General George S. Patton
I challenge you this week to task people with your intent and not specific instructions.
Your employees, collogues, kids, and spouse will all thank you!
Lead well!
Steve
In half all of companies, low performers are happier than high performers. How can this be?
It’s because leaders fail to hold their low performing employees accountable and overwork their best employees to compensate.
This week we look at a way to improve your ability to initiate tough conversations.
Lead well!
Steve
Using one of my favorite videos of all time coming in at 17 seconds, this week young Jonathan the Turtle Lover helps us better communicate.
We all pre-script responses in conversations. But how much are we listening to the question?
Lead well!
Steve
This week I watched an Air Force Colonel retire after thirty-two years of military service. At the end of the ceremony, he left us with a few “deep thoughts” he learned over the years.
The one that resonated with me was:
Hard to do does not equal impossible.
This week, we explore the things in our lives that seem impossible, but really are just hard to do.
Lead well!
Steve
Imagine the best youth sports coach you’ve had or who has coached your child. They have an uncanny ability to build teams, improve confidence, and get results.
The methods they use are amazingly transferrable to leading in the workplace. Those same coaching techniques can also enhance our teams at work.
We should all lead a little more like our kid’s best soccer coach. This week we explore how.
Lead well, on and off the field!
Steve
Many leaders don’t know their organization’s pulse. They think they do but are clueless. The only way to truly understand the culture and morale of your people is to get in the trenches and ask them.
This week, come explore the trenches with us and get to know your people’s needs.
Lead well!
Steve
There’s a great lie we all have a tendency to believe about our personal and leader identity. The lie is that:
My Identity = My Performance + What Others Think of Me
This week we look at this destructive belief through a lens of our work, the NFL, and George Washington. We must all realign our identity to lead effectively through the hills and valleys of life.
Lead well!
Steve
This week’s article is out early because we want to encourage you to watch the way Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelensky is leading.
In a time of crisis, thus far, the President has demonstrated exceptional leadership in the face of challenge and hardship. Continue to watch how this unfolds and learn how to lead in crises.
It can be frustrating to do an incredibly good job at anything and not be recognized. This probably happens to most of us… all the time. Until we try a little less thinking it doesn’t matter.
This week Josh takes us on a personal journey on the benefits of leaders noticing “Even the Least of These.”
A challenge I know I can do better at.
This week we explore the seedy underbelly of group dynamics: Social Loafing.
Have you ever wondered why some people don’t pull their fair share of the weight when working in groups?
This week I found myself wandering the dark places of social loafing. Take a read to learn more.
This week we explore what a Greek sculptor, the NHL, and organizational leaders all have in common. Great Tuesday read for those looking to maximize the potential of their team.
Lead well today!
Have you ever looked at someone and wanted to be as lucky as they are? I know I have.
Yet, upon closer examination, while successful people certainly have some luck, they have more hard work and talent. This week we look at why people are lucky and how we, as leaders, can be lucky as well.
I really appreciate talking leadership with everyone – keep at it! And I’m always looking for new authors to publish their ideas – be bold… and lead well!
Do you love your employees? This week, our third guest author Jon Price revisits a leadership lesson he learned years ago about how leaders should love their followers. And it’s not what you think.
Every leader should wrestle with the concept of loving their employees–all of them. And every leader should be bold enough to write their thoughts so others can see and learn from them.
Contact us if you’re interested in writing your own article. Thank you, Jon, for leading!
January 18, 2022 by Stephen T. Messenger Oblintunity: An obligation that one must do, but at the same time provides massive opportunity for personal growth and development I’ve recently been part of a mission to place military medical professionals into civilian hospitals struggling with high numbers of COVID patients and staffing shortages. These military doctors,Continue reading “Oblitunity”
This week our second guest author, Brittany Lake, takes us on her leadership journey. She has experienced the highs and lows of mentorship and shares how one person helped change her perspective to become that one person to others.
Writing about leadership is the best way to grow. I encourage you to be bold like Brittany Lake and help others improve through your experiences shared with others.
Contact us if you’re interested in publishing an article. Thanks for sharing, Brittany!
Lead well!
Happy New Year, leaders! I hope this is a year where you continue to deliberately focus on your leadership journey!
I hate resolutions – but I love goal setting! I encourage you to start the year by setting some challenging goals and launching off into a journey where others will follow.
2022 – Continue to lead well and thank you for joining us on this journey!
Steve Messenger and TMS Team
by Stephen T. Messenger December 14, 2021 “Talent wins games, but teamwork and intelligence win championships.” –Michael Jordan Nothing brings out the true heart of a group better than going to battle together. I recently heard of the Battle of Kruger Pass through an exceptional “From the Green Notebook” podcast. Scott O’Neil, CEO of aContinue reading “The Battle of Kruger: The Power of Us”
by Stephen T. Messenger December 7, 2021 I left the Army after only four years in 2004. There were a few different reasons, but I remember watching my leaders and wondering, “Do I want to be them in five, ten, or twenty years?” Many of them were exceptional leaders. They loved their jobs, families, andContinue reading “People Don’t Quit Their Jobs… They Quit Their Bosses”
by Stephen T. Messenger November 30, 2021 I recently tackled Greyrock Peak Mountain Trail in Fort Collins, Colorado, a challenging 7.2-mile hike with a 2,400-foot elevation gain, topping off at 7,600 feet above sea level. It was a beautiful day in the mid-50s, and everything was perfect except my start time. I planned to beginContinue reading “Summit Fever”
With Thanksgiving around the corner, it’s a great time to reflect on if we’re thanking our people enough.
We’re not. We can never express too much gratitude! This week and year, I challenge us to be more mindful of recognizing those who do so much on our behalf.
Lead–and thank–well!
By Stephen T. Messenger November 16, 2021 As every individual walked in the door for the first time, I shook their hand and thanked them for being part of our team, and it mattered It’s awkward meeting people, especially when you’re assigned to a new group. In those initial stages of team building, it’s importantContinue reading “Meet Them at the Door”
In preparation for Veteran’s Day, this week we look Pat Tillman and his journey to find his sweet spot. HIs intersection of passions, talents, and opportunity created a life of legacy.
Leaders need to seek out their own sweet spot along with creating opportunities for those within their organization.
Lead well, today!
This week’s guest author Mario Oliva brings twenty-six years of military experience to bear in a culminating lesson for all of us to embrace – there’s power through experiencing unwanted change!
Have you ever read something without comprehending it? Maybe like this email?
Today we look at listening. This skill is easy to say but hard to do. Leaders must be intentional about listening to others. Only then will we harness the full intellectual horsepower of our team.
The week we use less than 100 words to help communicate more effectively. Well worth the 30 second read.
We all want efficient organizations, but often our decisions on how to use time get in the way. This week, we look at lessons from running, Greenpeace, and capturing insurgents to help us make better decisions on how to use our time effectively.
Too many organizations fail when the leader departs. This week we explore the importance of successors and how to find and develop your eventual replacement. We all need a trained and ready leader waiting to take over, Don’t wait until you’ve already left.
This week, I had the honor of promoting to the rank of Colonel in the United States Army. As I looked back over a 21-year career, I reflected to select one, seminal leadership lesson I wanted to pass along to military and civilian leaders, and especially my children.
It’s not about me.
Sometimes we all need to sit on the bleachers.
Consider two perspectives on your leadership – one from the field and one from the bleachers. We sometimes get tunnel vision playing on the field. This week we explore how a different perspective can help your leadership.
I’m wrong… a lot. This week’s article digs into what it feels like to be wrong and how lessons from a packing a car, military bombers, and a WWI helmet can help us be right more often. If you’re ever wrong, this is one you don’t want to miss!
On the 20th Anniversary of 9/11, we take a look at our Nation’s history through the lens of Generation Z. Caleb Messenger, born after September 11, 2001 and part of the rising cohort of American leadership, shares thoughts on this tragic event.
By Stephen T. Messenger September 7, 2021 Thomas Edison as a child overheard a conversation between his teacher and a school inspector. The teacher said it wasn’t worthwhile to keep Edison in school because he was “addled” and had trouble thinking clearly. In this one hurtful sentence, the teacher unfairly defined Edison’s potential according toContinue reading “Exceed Your Potential”
By Gerald D. Eady August 31, 2021 I was drafted by the Seattle Mariners twice, once out of high school and once out of college. There I spent four seasons in the Mariners’ farm system as an outfielder. I thought for sure I was going to the big leagues, and I actually made it. InContinue reading “Lead Outside the Circle”
By Stephen T. Messenger August 23, 2021 Redwoods thrive in groves. Standing somewhere around 300 feet tall and up to 30 feet in diameter, you would think deep roots are the key to keeping them up. Instead, their root system is shallow and broad extending over a hundred feet from the base. More amazing, theyContinue reading “High Performing Teams”
By Stephen T. Messenger August 17, 2021 I’ll admit, I felt a little guilty sitting by the water doing nothing. It was my third week of vacation between job assignments, and I’ve been relatively unproductive for a number of days. The kids and I were in the water more often than not and having aContinue reading “The Mental Retreat”
by Stephen T. Messenger July 13, 2021 Last week I completed my Battalion Command experience—it has truly been an honor to lead America’s best and brightest. I was challenged, humbled, and encouraged by the great men and women who so diligently work on behalf of our Nation. While I learned many lessons from the job,Continue reading “Success Versus Significance”
July 4, 2021 This Independence Day, we thought it would be appropriate to share one of our Nation’s foundational documents, the Declaration of Independence. The struggle our fledgling Nation went through to separate from Great Britain was leadership at its finest. Fifty-six signatories supported by a countless background cast signed this declaration that would essentiallyContinue reading “Independence Day”
By Stephen T. Messenger 22 June 2021 Know your people, see your people, love your people, and hold them accountable. If you’ve been around the United States Army recently, you’ve heard Chief of Staff General James McConville say, “People First, Winning Matters.” I’m not sure there’s a more profound and relevant statement out there forContinue reading “The Importance–And Challenge–of People First”
by Stephen T. Messenger June 22, 2021 Successful and unsuccessful people do not vary greatly in their abilities. They vary in their desires to reach their potential. –John Maxwell We were teaching our young son baseball the other day at a minor league game. He was enjoying it but had no concept of the rules.Continue reading “Student of the Game”
By Stephen T. Messenger June 15, 2021 The other day I was talking to the gym trainer about personal goals. While I was focused on conquering and achieving them, Devin was more interested in working on them. He said, “The joy is in the journey.” This made me pause. While I agree with the theory,Continue reading “The Joy Is in the Journey”
By Stephen T. Messenger June 8, 2021 This week commemorates the 77th anniversary of the D-Day invasion where on June 6, 1944 Allied forces began the operation to liberate Europe from Nazi Germany. There are many incredible aspects of this story, but one of the most interesting rests in the decision General Dwight Eisenhower hadContinue reading “Establish Your Foothold”
By Stephen T. Messenger May 31, 2021 Memorial Day evokes a wide range of emotions across our Nation. Many consider this holiday to be the unofficial beginning of summer. The grill comes out, the lawn games appear, and the fun begins. Some take their first seasonal vacation and spend time at the lake, beach, orContinue reading “Never Forget the Sacrifice”
By Stephen T. Messenger May 25, 2021 This week, I was honored to speak at a commissioning ceremony for ten newly minted Army lieutenants. I love watching young leaders begin their journeys. Upon commissioning, second lieutenants outrank 82% of everyone in the military on Day One. Similarly, leaders in many different roles, whether military orContinue reading “Personal Responsibility and the Ford Ranger”
By Stephen T. Messenger May 18, 2021 I often ask myself, “How full is my cup of leadership?” Some days I have lots to give, and others I find myself running low. I know that I owe it to those I lead to keep my cup not just full but running over and pouring intoContinue reading “The Five Cups of Leadership”
By Joshua Messenger May 11, 2021 Frantically, I scanned his text and drafted a response. He couldn’t back out from speaking tonight–not at the last minute! Sure, I could have swooped in and pulled out my emergency lesson I’d prepared a while back, but that would have defeated the entire purpose. I had to respondContinue reading “Responding with Intention”
By Stephen T. Messenger May 4, 2021 Great leaders influence others to do more they can possibly dream or imagine. We see this throughout history with great leaders such as George Washington, Martin Luther King, Jr., Nelson Mandela, and Mahatma Gandhi, to name a few. While these public figures all changed nations, there are privateContinue reading “The Science of Influence”
by Stephen T. Messenger April 27, 2021 I have to admit, this was a moment of weakness. I was at the track early on Monday running quarter mile sprints. I felt slow, lethargic, and just plain old. The last two weeks, my running has been declining, and I was starting to mentally feel like myContinue reading “That One Sentence Matters”
by Stephen T. Messenger April 20, 2021 COVID scrapped our plans again. We spent over two months planning an exciting, week-long, COVID compliant, offsite for our leadership team. Between reinforcing our strategic narrative, sharing best practices, conducting one-on-one counseling, hosting a competitive event and team building, and providing ample down time, this event was destinedContinue reading “Plans Are Worthless; Planning Is Everything”
by Stephen T. Messenger April 12, 2021 Every Sunday morning at 11:00 we clean the house for an hour right after church. This has been going on ever since we moved into our new home, and while the kids don’t like it all that much, they diligently comply. But not this week. A scheduling changeContinue reading “Vacuum Grief: Leading through Change”
I wasn’t expecting to say anything, yet every eye was looking at me. Walking around the organization, I was planning on making small talk with the team, thanking a few individuals, and asking questions on how things were going. The next thing I knew, one of the workers asked if I would address the groupContinue reading “The Special Speech: Impromptu Speaking”
by Stephen T. Messenger March 30, 2021 Once I saw it, I only had three seconds to decide before it was too late. I was driving home on the highway when I noticed a car up ahead on the shoulder with a blown-out tire. My mind flooded with excuses not to help: They probably alreadyContinue reading “Flat Tire Leadership: No Fail Missions”
by Stephen T. Messenger March 22, 2021 Throughout my career, I’ve moved thirteen times, had twenty different job positions, and occupied as many desks or workspaces. After multiple transitions, I’ve developed a theory: Move the Desk! On the first day of owning my new area, the first thing I do is grab the corner ofContinue reading “Move the Desk!”
by Stephen T. Messenger March 15, 2021 While I always strive my hardest to place first in anything I do, rarely do I actually finish there. In fact, I can only think of two times when I was first in any school, competition, or evaluation. Even though I don’t take home the trophy often, IContinue reading “Increasing Competitive Capacity”
by Stephen T. Messenger March 9, 2021 Every afternoon, I leave work and am immediately faced with a dilemma. There’s usually no one around the empty parking lot, and by far the most expedient way out is through the way I came in—a short, eighty-foot access road to the main highway. The only problem isContinue reading “Not A Hint… Whiff… Sniff… (5 of 5)”
by Stephen T. Messenger March 2, 2021 We finally got a dog. After many years of deflecting the pressure from our kids, my wife and I allowed a four-legged tornado into our house. Puppies, no matter how innocent they look, are a lot of work. They require constant attention, aren’t potty trained, eat everything inContinue reading “Expect the Greater Reward (4 of 5)”
by Stephen T. Messenger February 23, 2021 Never in my life had I been so scared. I was 20 years old at Fort Benning, Georgia, recently starting my military career, and staring out the open door of a C-130 Hercules Air Force cargo plane. It was my first jump at Airborne School, a place whereContinue reading “Lead Boldly and Courageously (3 of 5)”
by Stephen T. Messenger February 16, 2021 All new Army officers take the oath of enlistment to begin their career. In this oath, they raise their right hand and swear to “well and faithfully discharge the duties of the office upon which [they are] about to enter.” In effect, they are taking accountability for theirContinue reading “Accept Responsibility (2 of 5)”
by Stephen T. Messenger February 9, 2021 I watched my eleven-year-old son holding on for dear life at the top of this swaying tower at a rock-climbing gym. He had scampered up there with no problem, but fear was paralyzing him from coming down. It seemed safe enough from the ground: a harness and automaticContinue reading “Reject Passivity (1 of 5)”
Stephen T. Messenger February 3, 2021 Leadership is hard to define. Thousands of scholars and practitioners have placed their unique spin on this topic and tried to describe what leaders are and how they act. But wading through these definitions, its often hard to communicate leadership to others from a simple and practical perspective. TheContinue reading “RALE+1 Leadership”
by Stephen T. Messenger January 27, 2021 I always get motivated about a new leadership opportunity. It’s exciting to know that I’ll be at the tip of the spear and leading innovative men and women to tackle a challenging project or assignment. I was once newly assigned at a Fortune 500 distribution center to leadContinue reading “Overcoming Leadership Fog”
by Stephen T. Messenger January 17, 2021 It was the day after one of my peers and good friends left the organization. I walked into the office and staring me in the face that morning was a white envelope with my name on it. Outside was his name professionally printed on quality cardstock. Inside IContinue reading “The Art of the Thank You”
Stephen T. Messenger January 7, 2021 Roger Federer and Andre Agassi are two of the most successful tennis players of all time. With over 2,000 match wins between them, they ruled the courts of their day and demolished their competition. Interestingly enough, one loves the game while the other hates it. Federer found his motivationContinue reading “Acing Transformational Leadership”
Stephen T. Messenger 1 January 2021 “The size of your dreams must always exceed your current capacity to achieve them. If your dreams do not scare you, they are not big enough.” — Ellen Johnson Sirleaf Every year in January, much to my wife’s chagrin, I outline a list of twenty personal, audacious goals thatContinue reading “2021 – Setting Audacious Goals”
by Stephen T. Messenger January 1, 2021 I have three baseball caps in my house. One is a clean tan Army hat that I wear outside in public at places like sporting events and beach gatherings. This reminds me that I am a military officer both on and off duty and represent the profession ofContinue reading “Wearing Different Hats”
by Stephen T. Messenger January 1, 2021 In 2007, Starbucks faced backlash for a failure to protect the environment. Between wasting over six million gallons of water per day from constantly running faucets and selling more than two billion unrecyclable paper cups per year, their environmental footprint, or lack thereof, was not making any friends.[i] Continue reading “Not a Hint of Impropriety”
by Stephen T. Messenger January 1, 2021 The most powerful words any leader can say are “Follow me.” Leaders lead from the front and are the first to walk into any conflict—be it the field of battle or boardroom. You cannot expect your team to do what you say unless you do what you said. Continue reading “Follow Me!”
by Stephen T. Messenger January 1, 2021 I’ve been a runner now for many years typically hitting the pavement five times a week. In periods where I run just to say I exercised; I rarely improve. I generally don’t see changes in my performance except preventing atrophy. I can tell my coworkers I ran toContinue reading “Doing Things Right”
by Stephen T. Messenger January 1, 2021 What would you get your boss if she asked you for a cup of coffee first thing in the morning? One of my mentors asked me this very same question ten years ago. I pictured myself walking to the break room to fill up a Styrofoam cup two-thirdsContinue reading “Cup of Coffee Philosophy”
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